D/s is possible 24/7.
It takes work and patience, trust, open communication and knowing each other very well. I am a slave and I always remember my status and place. In any situation, I always think about how Padrone would guide me. Padrone never forgets his responsibilities in having a slave.
The life
as a 24/7 slave is what I have always wanted. It is a part of my very nature, to
serve and please my Padrone. For Him to have very strict control on me shows I
am very loved and cared for. With all of the rules in place and restrictions I
have, Padrone does that very well.
Living in a
D/s relationship is extremely interesting and at times very challenging. You
really do have to change your whole way of thinking, and of how you look at
life. When I first began talking to Padrone, I didn't think that I would end up
being collared by Him, let alone become His life partner and move in with Him
as His slave. However, as time went on, it became obvious to us both, that what
we have is something rare and special, and though it may not be everyone’s idea
of paradise, for us, it is a winning combination.
A lot of
people in the Lifestyle may think that living in a 24/7 would be the ultimate,
and for me it is. But, there are many speed bumps to be negotiated along the
way. The simple act of living together is difficult enough in a vanilla
relationship, but when the relationship is D/s, it brings a whole new set of
conditions to adjust to. For example, in a vanilla relationship, the decision
about where things are put becomes a joint one - a discussion between two people
about what looks or works best. In our relationship, Padrone decides what goes
where. I can, and do, respectfully suggest things, and sometimes my suggestions
are taken up, but in the end, the final say is Padrone’s.
The way I
look at my life is very different now. Getting my head around some things has
taken time, but I am secure and confident and know exactly who and what I am,
and I am totally comfortable with it. At home, things are very relaxed and we
do normal things like laugh and joke around, or watch TV. The basis for our
relationship is D/s and no matter what situation we are in, I never, ever
forget that He is Padrone and I am slave. There is a lot more D/s going on than
most people would realize. A glance, a certain tone in His voice, a certain
movement or a simple request for a cup of coffee may all seem like normal
things, but the way it’s done leaves no doubt in my mind just who is in
control.
I believe
there is difference between D/s and BDSM. D/s is the show or feel of Dominance
and submission. There is service and outward respect and obedience shown. The
BDSM part to me is the bondage, the playing, the pain, the S&M. The D/s is
constant. The Dominance and submission is evident in our relationship, but in a
way that is unobtrusive. The D/s part can be shown without lots of people
thinking much of it or noticing it. Some examples would be in the way I always
walk slightly behind Padrone or that he always leads me by my hand whenever we
are in public.
We do have
our disagreements every once in a while, just like any other relationship, but the
boundaries are more clearly defined and there is a more consistent feeling all
the time. I am secure in the knowledge that Padrone loves me, that I am owned
by Him, and I know that fact will never change or waiver no matter what
happens.
So does
what we have make our relationship a 24/7 D/s one? I feel that it is and I know
that Padrone does too. There is no time when I feel that I am not His and that
is reflected in my acceptance of His collar and he in accepting me as His. I do
not think that a 24/7 D/s relationship must reflect one which represents level
9 of submission. I personal do not feel that that is possible. However, I do
feel that the level to which we have taken our relationship is possible to
maintain every day.
So, whether you choose to label your relationship as a D/s, M/s, or simple BDSM one, it can be maintained 24/7 to a certain degree at all times.
Post title: " Is D/s Possible to Live 24/7? "
About The Author
Post title: " Is D/s Possible to Live 24/7? "
Posted by Michelle Fegatofi at 12/09/2012 06:19:00 PM December 9, 2012
Tell a friend about us, add a link to this page. Share this post or email it to a friend. Become a follower of the blog and of our various social media pages.
We love to hear from you! Your thoughts, your questions, even your unfavourable opinions will help us to write more.
Drop a comment below, tell us what you think!
By commenting, sharing, and pinning, you are helping us grow! Also, check the notify button to know when your comment is replied.
Thank you for being part of our journey! And thanks for reading!
Thank you for being part of our journey! And thanks for reading!
i loved this! its nice to see someone write about 24/7 in a way that is true to life. i also live in a 24/7 D/s relationship. most people who know us have no idea they just think its cute the things i do, or the way we interact with each other.
ReplyDeleteThank you. I write what I know and believe, but also what is true in my life. I'm sure you have a first hand understanding about what i write.
ReplyDelete