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Many new people to the world of BDSM don't have the education and/or experience to tell the difference of what is considered 'normal' and what is abuse in the BDSM Lifestyle.

Here is a list of things to look out for that are obvious signs of an Abuser posing as a Dominant.

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Controlling behavior due to fear of losing their partner.
Isolating the submissive from family and friends
Discouraging self sufficient behavior
Not allowing any social interaction which does not include the Dominant
Out of control jealousy
Explosive temper
Behaves like a spoiled child when not getting his/her way
Abuses drugs/alcohol
Does not take responsibility for mistakes
Uses unhealthy behavior to gain control over the submissive
Emotional Blackmail - example: Keeping the submissive in a constant state of fear that the relationship will end if they don't get their way.
Emotional Withdrawal - example: Using the "silent treatment" or physically withdrawing and cutting off all contact rather than communicating and taking responsibility for the situation.
Withdrawal of affection
Refusing any/all intimacy as a punishment which can be quite damaging and reinforces the fear that the submissive will lose the relationship unless he/she gives into this type of blackmail.

If your Dominant shows any of these signs on a consistent basis, please seek advice or help from experienced Dominants or subs to get an unbiased opinion of the situation.

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Post title: " Warning Signs of a Fake Dominant "

Post title: " Warning Signs of a Fake Dominant "

Posted by Anonymous at 5/24/2013 07:09:00 PM May 24, 2013

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7 comments :

Jennifer LeelandJuly 3, 2013 at 12:51 AM
Awesome.
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UnknownNovember 8, 2014 at 1:06 PM
Very helpful thanks
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sweetly sexyJanuary 30, 2015 at 12:57 PM
well put :) there are some incredibly ill people out there. please don't let yourself get in a position from which you can escape (physically, financially, etc.) you can find somebody who loves you and will still help you make your heart's desires <3
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Marabelle BlueMay 13, 2016 at 11:06 PM
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slave caged456March 18, 2017 at 7:34 PM
seems like a very interesting site. honestly it is about time someone started putting the lifestyle out there, without being ashamed of it.
to Ms Fegatofi sure do admire your guts! never give up! never quit!
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AnonymousMay 23, 2018 at 4:37 AM
Mine did everyone of these also needed to be praised by many women I lost everything I had because I didnt see this and many were hurt I had to cross 3 states to feel safe now he sees and wants me back I just hope he gets the help he needs and I can heal over time the lies and accusations too when you add drugs it only compounds it and makes it crazy I wished I'd seen this list first maybe before it ever got serious I might have done something as it is I will always love the man and hope he is well may even work it out if he truly works on himself returns belongings basically he has to prove himself to me even then I just dont know
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