Michelle Fegatofi

Every year that I have been writing this blog, I write a year end resolutions post.

Last year, I encouraged you to renew your connections with your partner and yourself. This year, I want you to learn to just be you, the real you!

I have had a year filled with many different health problems, helping others tackle their relationship issues, and dealing with other adverse situations. There are have also been many wonderful high points for me. Beautiful memories and events that have helped me grow as a person in both confidence and knowledge. I can honestly say that my followers and friends have really challenged me this past year by some of the questions they asked me to tackle but in doing so, I have broadened my thinking on many different subjects.

My Padrone has had to cope with my health issues this year that affected all aspects of our lives at some point. He has been my rock and shelter from the storms but also was my biggest supporter and fan. I gained a greater confidence in my writing as well as my body image with him just being his wonderful self.

I am not making any resolutions for 2015. I decided that this is the year that I'm just going to be me. Here are some things I know will happen not change. My weight will go up and down. I will have periods of time in which I exercise every day and weeks I won't. I will most likely have to deal with some type of health issue. I will have times in which I do not like my body and ones in which I think I look like a super model. I will have insecurities. I will grow and learn new things. There will be some down times but there will be many more happy ones. Padrone will always be there to support me, guide me, love me and take care of me. I will love, honor, obey and support Padrone. I know there will be rough patches in our relationship, but they will just bring us closer together in the end.

I ask you to make the resolution to just be yourself also. Don't try to make yourself lose weight because society says you have too. Do whatever you want to. Become confident in who you are, what you look like and try to love yourself. Don't make resolutions that you honestly know you won't keep. When you do make those and don't succeed, most of the time you feel guilt and that makes your entire outlook of yourself go down.

I hope that some of you will follow my example. I think it will make for a much better year and a happier one.

From Padrone Marco and I, we wish you all a safe, healthy, and happy 2015!!!!

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Michelle Fegatofi

I imagine that many of you have made New Year's resolutions about time, family and losing weight. But, what about your BDSM life? Are you where you want to be? Do you want to grow more? Do you have a partner already or are you looking for one? How much have you learned over this past year?

Here is a list of things I think should be worked on continuously, throughout the year. If you are new or just starting out, it would be a great idea to review them yourself and with your partner so you can use them as a guide and add your own items and ideas that fit your lifestyle.

1. Renew your commitment to keeping up your knowledge and skills in your chosen practice of BDSM.
2. Renew your commitment to your Dominant or submissive.
3. Meditate daily to help keep yourself focused.
4. Renew your commitment to keep an open mind.
5. Find new paths to explore.

 

1. Make a list of books and websites that continuously update their information with fresh articles.
2. Look at the existing rules to see if any additions or changes need to be made.
3. Reevaluate your relationship with your Dom/sub to ensure that both of you are getting what you need and expected out of the relationship.
4. Take the values, rules, and lifestyle of BDSM and shape them to your own needs/likes/wants.
5. Remember there is no fast and steady rule of right and wrong as long as everyone is happy in the relationship. If you believe there is, then you really need to re-evaluate your decision to practice BDSM.

My Padrone and I both wish all of you health, peace, happiness and love for this year and remember my email is always open if you ever have a question or comment.

Best Wishes and Happy New Year!

Marco and Michelle Fegatofi

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