For people that have no or little experience, here is a list of items that you may want to include in what I like to refer to as a 'BDSM Starter Kit'. They include safe items that you can incorporate into your sex life to help the transition from a missionary vanilla style to a more Kink based exploration.
BDSM Starter Kit |
- Educational Books about the BDSM Lifestyle (Books of this type can help your partner to better understand BDSM but also help them begin to understand themselves more in depth)
- Restraints with Velcro Quick Release
- Soft Paddles
- Flavored/Edible Lubes
- Blindfolds
- Items for Sensory Play (Feather, soft fabric, etc)
If you have been in the BDSM scene for a while and want to advance your S&M play or just want to get a special present for your partner, I recommend commissioning a Whip or Flogger from a reputable maker in the materials and colors you specify.
Christmas Flogger Present |
If you are looking to get your partner a gift that is not sex toy related, then some of these ideas might be perfect for you:
- Erotica Books by their Favorite Author
- Body Frangrances
- Specalized BDSM related Jewerly (including new collars)
- Lingerie (Leather, Latex, Lacey)
- Candles or Aromatherapy fragrances
- Floor cushion for the submissive
- Day Spa trips
- Massages
- Special symbol tattooed
Any of these items could be expanded to include a huge list, but I wanted to go with a small general list of ideas to help those of you that had no idea what you wanted to buy for your partner.
I hope you enjoy these ideas and they help you have a wonderful and gift filled holiday season!
If you have any more ideas or holiday hints you would like to contribute, please leave them in the comment section below!
Another idea. If you know of a fantasy your partner wants to try (but have not yet explored,) figure out how to make it happen. I say this because I know someone with a specific fantasy which has a hurdle to solve and I would love a crack at trying to pull it off (a Holiday present for me maybe?)
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