And if you do, how do you think this concept would differ in a true BDSM or D/s relationship? I have always pondered the concept of soulmates but never really believed it until I found my own in my Padrone Marco Fegatofi.
A soulmate is a person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet; a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior. Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them. When you are not around them, you are all that much more aware of the harshness of life, and how bonding with another person in this way is the most significant and satisfying thing you will experience in your lifetime. You are also that much more aware of the beauty in life, because you have been given a great gift and will always be thankful for.
In a normal relationship, we have all seen or known at least one couple that has this kind of connection, or something close. We look on in wonderment at how connected and truly in love that couple is.
In a normal BDSM love relationship, there is always a deeper connection than those in a normal vanilla relationship, simply because of the core principles of BDSM - complete honesty, open communication, and 100% trust. Yes, everyone in any type of relationship should adhere to these principals, but, judging from my own experiences, we in the BDSM community tend to stick to these a lot more than those in the vanilla world.
When you add in the concept of a Dominant or submissive soulmate, how does this deepen the bond of a normal BDSM relationship? I think it adds a much deeper understanding, love, and truer sense of safety and freedom for the submissive.
Now you are asking, how is this possible and what exactly do I mean? Speaking from my own experience, as a submissive slave, when I first met and started talking to Padrone, there was something that drew me to him. His words made me feel as though I were very special in some way. The longer we talked, the more we found out that we have almost the exact same thoughts on philosophy, community, world matters, relationships, and many other things.
Our personalities are the perfect opposite of the other. His strengths are my weaknesses and my strengths are his. His style of Dominance is exactly what I need. He gives me the freedom to be myself completely, without worries about being weak, sick, or weird. His protection, rules, and guidelines give me a sense of safety that I have never had, and in that, I have found a freedom that is almost indescribable.
Our style of M/s is more subtle, softer in many ways than what a lot of other people practice, but it is perfect for us. He allows me freedoms that he knows I need, while at the same time giving me guidelines to follow in every single facet of my life.
He is strong in mind and principals and protects me like I am the most precious jewel on this earth. He allows me to submit to him in every way possible, while also allowing me to voice my opinions on things when I want to.
How is this different from a normal deep M/s connection? We are so deeply connected, he can feel my epilepsy acting up most of the time before I tell him something is wrong. He feels when I need to eat something to level off my sugar levels. He knows when I need him to just hold me tight or when I need some space for whatever reason.
I can anticipate his needs and wants without asking in things like getting him a cigarette before he grabs them, massaging him before he asks me, making him something to eat, and many other things.
Often when he is at work, I will feel he needs to hear my voice if he has had a bad day or is missing me, or he will know right before I call that I am about to call. He knows when I need him to be stricter as a Dominant or softer as the love of my life. He feels when I need a spanking or need him to be a little rougher to satisfy some caveman feeling I am having.
Before Padrone, I believed in love, but always had a feeling that there should be something else or something more too it. I always felt like something was missing and that I was searching for that something extra. Since meeting and living with Padrone, I feel complete. I don't feel like there is some mysterious thing I am missing out on. I feel like I have found the best and most beautifully complete life that I can live.
So, did I change your mind about soulmates? Share your thoughts and your own stories with me!
My husband and I had that instant connection. At a bar full of gorgeous military men, I couldn't take my eyes off of him, nor could he of me. Within an hour his arms were around me, and while that's as physical as we got that night, we never stopped talking to each other. We are also the complimentary strengths/weaknesses, and we do not lack intimacy, communication, trust. Every fantasy either of us have is shared and explored. It's a great journey to be on together.
ReplyDeletei found my soulmate through art...i actually fell in love with him before i ever saw his face or heard his voice. when you find your soulamte they call to you in many ways. i was drawn to anything about him even before i knew who i was. we were friends for year before we REALLY talked. i wasnt ready when we first met, and didnt know who i was...it was the wrong time and the universe knew it...but time waited and my feeling of being drawn to him became stronger. when i finally made some personal break throughs i finally found my voice and strength in me. i finally told him how he made me feel and at first i approached it purely sexually out of fear of hurt. i wanted to approach him without getting emotionally involved because we are different countries. even though long distance the connection still unfolded the same, the amazing similarities, yet the awesome differences that fit together like zipper teeth. when he would explain how he felt from his heart there are times were he would pull the same words or sentances that were creeping in my mind but i was too afraid to say. soulmates are real, and even in the alternate lifestyles...i'm a dom/switch who found a sub/switch that completes me...and i know this is not the first life i have had with him...finding him changed my beliefs, now i just need to get him home
ReplyDeleteI dated a gal in HS and hers is the only kiss I could remember with absolute clarity. 25 years later we had our first phone conversation and the electricity was palpable. We both felt it. Although it is a long distance relationship, we "sense" each other. All day, every day. She introduced me to the D/s lifestyle and it all just "clicked". She is my soul mate. Always has been - always will be. I am ruined for any other woman at this point.
ReplyDeleteI met my Daddy/soulmate a little over a year ago where I work. I felt an instant connection with him and he with me. We started out as friends first, and flirted a little, but after my breakup with my most recent ex, Big Daddy texted me to ask about something pertaining to our jobs and I was having a crappy day (having just broken up with the ex) and he said "if you ever need a pick me up, just let me know...." And of course I did. The reply I got was one I'll never ever forget because I had felt the SAME exact way since the first time I'd laid eyes on him.
ReplyDeleteWe felt an instant connection and after about 3 months of dating, we discovered we were also drawn towards the lighter side of BDSM and D/s. We're both very new to this aspect of a relationship such as this and love trying new and different things.
But I know that deep down, Big Daddy and I are soul mates. We're not learning each other, we're remembering each other...we've been together in the past and our souls found each other again.
This is beautiful and very touching. I still think it exists but I don't believe in it anymore.
ReplyDeleteOne day you will find your soul mate....your one perfect match. Don't stop having faith....
ReplyDeleteBut imagine the sheer heartbreak, of meeting your soulmate, and with his life situation, not being able to be with them! I am broken beyond repair without my other half.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful...thank you for sharing...this brought tears to my eyes...
ReplyDeleteThis is a delightful story that you've shared and one that sits deeply in my soul for awakening!
ReplyDeleteThank you!