I have a lot of questions asking me what the difference is between rules and protocols for submissives.So, today’s post is the easiest way I can think of to explain the differences. They are similar, but different.
Rules are the specific guidelines a submissive/slave lives by. They are set by the Dominant and can govern everything from what clothes to wear to a set exercise routine.
Here is an example of basic rules that a 24/7 live-in slave might follow:
- Slave should always remove clothing as soon as she/he gets home unless Master/ Mistress has laid out clothing for the slave or submissive to wear.
- Slave should fold clothes neatly or place them in the laundry whenever he/ she gets undressed.
- Slave should have coffee ready before waking Master up and serve at medium hot temperature.
- Slave will never question or ask ‘Why’ when an order is given, just follow and perform task as best as she/he can.
- Slave will wear collar at all times, inside or outside the house.
- Slave will not accept any new friends online on any sites unless approved by Master first.
Protocol refers to how Dominants and submissives/slaves interact with each other. This can cover how a sub greets the Dominant when they come home from work to how a sub greets guests when outside at a party.
The D/s lifestyle has various situations which can involve different levels of protocol, for example an informal night at home might be low protocol, having D/s guests for dinner maybe medium protocol, but a formal D/s dinner would be high protocol.
Low protocol is easy going and usual in most informal situations or casual stay at home nights. It is also what many D/s couples use if they are in “vanilla situations” such as family get togethers, where not everyone is aware of the lifestyle. Only to the practiced eye, is the subtle D/s interaction noticeable, but there is no doubt in the submissive’s mind that it is there.
Medium protocol is basically just a step up from low protocol. It is still fairly easy going, but there is a bit of an edge to things, and the submissive is a little more aware of his/her behavior. It may involve things such as wearing a collar at the table for the evening, being mindful and respectful to whomever is around you, but being able to speak fairly freely, as long as you are respectful.
If a submissive or slave is “put on” high protocol, she/he is instructed to behave in a certain manner befitting a high protocol situation - she/he would have certain rules to follow. High protocol usually means all focus is on the Dominant, and no communication with anyone else, unless directed, is allowed. The submissive would keep eyes lowered and be quiet at all times, and remain in whatever position or place she/ he has been instructed to stay in.
I hope this helps clear up the differences. There are crossovers of course, but there are also clear differences too. Please feel free to comment or send me questions if you would like.
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Posted by Michelle Fegatofi at 11/27/2012 06:18:00 PM November 27, 2012